Trust Issues

Okay, so I have to be honest: I've had my fair share of drama and I've disappointed my parents more times than I"ve made them proud. I'm really making the effort to change and be a better person, but somehow, the past always seems to catch up with me.

Fortunately, my Dad is forgiving, he doesn't dwell on something for too long. When the situation arises, he says and does everything he needs to, then moves on. You never hear about it again!

My mom on the other hand... *sigh* she's still  punishing me for things I did more than two years ago! I mean forgiveness is one thing- and that can only come when she's ready for it- but out right punishing me is just taking it too far. I'm not a parent (yet), so I guess I wouldn't understand what it's like, but if my dad can get over it- why can't she? Or even pretend to!

A wise, meat-dress wearing and very contreversial lady once said, "Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother f*cker's reflection." I guess that's how my mom percieves it...

With you is where I'd rather be...

Okay, so how do I start this post without it sounding like a "Brandy" song?! Friends of mine are having a bit of a problem, and I wasn't sure how to help them, here's the thing...

Violet* and Christiano* are a happy couple (with their fair share of ups and downs). They are both writing their final, second year varsity exams. Christiano suggests that they don't see each other for two weeks prior to the exams- and the duration of the exams. Violet agrees, although not really convinced that it's a good idea. In her experience, trying to isolate yourself from something during exams- only makes you think about it more than you should. Anyway, Christiano is scheduled to finish his exams 10 days before Violet. He then decides he wants to leave the country a day before she finishes hers. Violet is annoyed by this, as she expected to spend atleast two weeks of the summer holiday with her boyfriend.

More FACTS that support the story!!

• Violet and Christiano have only been dating for six months
• Violet, has a history of cheating on all the people she has ever dated
• Violet, is commited to Christiano, but admits to being impulsive and fears she might slip-up while he's gone
• Christiano will be leaving the country to visit his family
• Violet, has planned on spending her summer holidays away from her parents and partying like the world's about to end ( which according to the Mayans, will probably happen)
• In an isolated incident, Christiano mentioned that when a couple is seperated by distance, they tend to do things they wouldn't normally do, because chances of getting busted are relatively low!

So what is the way forward??
Stay tuned for the next post...

(*) Names changed to protect people's identities

Whose the man!

Okay, so as much as I'm  a modern woman who expects to be treated equally in a relationship, I have to admit- there are still things that guys can do to make us feel special. I mean, it's the small things that count...
Please note: You don't have to do ALL these things for your girlfriend. Doing all of them is actually a bad idea — she will become spoiled; you will become whipped.  Pick one or two of these mind-blowingly simple things; your happy girlfriend will be grateful to have you and will most likely reciprocate. (Speaking of blowing.)  

• Hold the door fpr her
• Opening the car door
• Offering your jacket when she's chilly
• Comes up behind her and putting your arms around her waist
•  If you’re meeting for dinner, get there before her and have a glass of wine waiting. [OK, so this one costs money, but getting drunk together has good consequences, right?]
• Make her a drink. (Without a shirt on!)
• Tell her she looks sexy. Not cute,or hot - sexy.
• Listen when she comes home upset about something and sympathize even if it sort of doesn’t make any sense.
• Let her have the last handful of popcorn or whatever you are sharing.
• Leave a note on the fridge that’s cute and nice, even if it just says “hi!” or an inside joke you two have 

Thank me later!


and on a completely unrelated topic...
WHEN LOVE IS THE CAUSE OF PECULIAR BEHAVIOUR
#1 You start stalking him (yes, checking his twitter and facebook every 5 minutes counts)
#2 You talk about him all the time (no one asked about him, but you still talked about him anyway, I'm also guessing that no one wants to know)
#3 You  become super jealous (he talks to the girl who sits behind him and you suddenly want to skin her alive)
#4 When he says "Hi", your mouth suddenly goes dry
#5 Visualising him naked during a lecture

Lol! I don't relate to anything I just mentioned there (really)

Keep your small town, I'll keep my Jo'burg

Okay, so I recently travelled to Hazyview, a small town in Mpumalanga to visit daddy dearest! The 7 hour bus ride in the blazing heat wasn't fun but I survived. I was there for a mere 3 days, and I can honestly say: I"m NOT a small town girl!! Now I have a new appreciation for the city. I hate the whole "everyone knows everyone" thing. Although I should add, that small town folk are MUCH friendlier!
So anyway, I had drinks with dad and a few of his friends, we even ended up having teqilla shots. Is my dad cool or what?! I must admit the restaurants and bars in the area are really nice and the open space and scenery (well we hardly have that in joburg). Dad is happy there, and I'm happy for him too. Let's not talk about his attempt at trying to convince mom to make us move there!!




Perry's Bridge Hollow, the bar we went to.